My friend Kathy tells me I am bold for blogging about love. Well, here's more love talk.
I was watching a movie the other night entitled, The Ugly Truth, and two scenes, connected by a common theme-love, stand out in my mind.
In the first scene, the actress is speaking to a guy she is seriously dating, but with whom she is not in love. He is obviously smitten with her and is about to propose marriage. She asks him why he loves her and he gives a list of reasons including her cute looks, smartness and easy going personality. She explains that she really doesn't have an easy going nature and that she was just being the person she thought he would want.
In the second scene, she asks a second guy why he loves her. This is a guy with whom she has had a fiery, tumultuous relationship but who is obviously passionately in love with her . He replies, "I don't know why I love you, I just do." In this case, his love is beyond definition. There are no reasons, and if all the reasons were to fade away-if she lost her mind, her good looks, her charm- the love would still exist.
This is a very powerful love.
In reflecting on my young adult life and the lives of my friends, I was always perplexed, and still am confused, by those who would make an account of what they wanted in a mate. For me, love just happened. It was something that couldn't be explained, defined, or controlled.
They say one "falls in love." Fall is the operative word. It's like falling into a black hole-there is no way to stop oneself, no way out, you just keep falling deeper and deeper.
This is unconditional love, this is true love, this is LOVE!